Many men think that it takes a lot of money to impress your new girlfriend or wife. What could say it better than diamonds or a new car.

Maybe you’re thinking about an expensive holiday or tickets to the hottest show in town.

Of course, anybody would like to get a new car or a holiday, but your partner would probably like to just know that you care, and that you are thinking of her during your day. The right gesture may show your feelings better than the most expensive gift.

Most guys go wrong in just buying a dozen roses and leaving it at that, but although roses are a nice gift, they aren’t personal. If you are interested in showing you care, and getting her to really notice, then read on.

If you are planning a romantic night, try preparing an indoor picnic. Dim the lights, spread a rug or blanket in the middle of the floor, and set the scene with plants and candles. You will spend a lot less than for a fancy restaurant, and the atmosphere will be much more intimate.

Stick with the picnic theme, and get cold meats and nice sandwiches with some of her favorite side dishes. For dessert, think fruits and chocolate sauce or honey, you can have a great time feeding each other, and intimate food play can lead to lots of fun.

Have you shared fantasies with each other? If so, I hope you were listening. Try spending half an hour or so writing a letter to her around her fantasies. Write her a scenario based around her fantasies with you both as the stars.

Write it around her fantasies, so if she likes the idea of being licked and kissed along the length f her body, write about that, if she fantasizes about being fucked hard in a doorway, incorporate this into your story.

You can either write it as if it is happening there and then (I take your bra off, and blow on your nipples to harden them) or describe the things you’d like to do, or will do in the future ( I’d love to watch your expression as I run my tongue up your thigh). Send her a story where you both star in her fantasies, and she’ll love it, and probably read it over and over again.

The next time you’ve got some time together where you know you’ll have no distractions, give her a massage. You might need to do some preparation in getting some powder or oil for the massage (they both reduce the friction during massage).

If you think she’d like it, tell her what you’re planning, and take her shopping with you. The local health food or sex shop should both have a range of oils suitable for massage, pick one that is nice to touch and smell.

Set the mood with soft music and lighting, candles are good for this. Start massaging with her head and neck, you don’t need to get undressed for these, so they’re a good place to start.

Be firm but not rough here, you want to be firm enough that you don’t tickle, but not too hard so that it causes pain in her neck bones. Take your time with this area, it’s always a tension spot, and encourage her to talk, it will relax her, and you can get a better idea of how to massage her.

Slowly work your way down her arms to her hands, don’t rush. Enjoy the feeling of her skin under your hands, and the knowledge that you are making her feel good. Work your way down her legs and calves, you’ll get to her back soon enough.

Don’t go for her breasts or between her legs too soon, remember you are doing this to treat her and make her feel special. When you get to her back, let her take her top off and lie down somewhere comfortable. Massage her back with the oil and use long, firm strokes and kneading motion for the muscles here.

Once you’ve been massaging her for a while and she is nice and relaxed, give her light kisses while you continue to massage her. If you don’t mind the oil, you can kiss the backs of her knees, her back, and across her neck.

You can follow each part of the massage with kisses- you want to take your time, but make sure that you are taking notice of her, you don’t want to make her wait.