When you have sex, is it you or your partner that takes the lead? Usually you’ll find that there’s one person who is a step ahead of the other in the race to the climax.

Sex is always pleasurable, but wouldn’t it be more fun if you finished together?

Women often come through clitoral stimulation, try having her sit on your lap and reach around her to stimulate her. This will feel like your arm and hand are hers.

Use two of your fingers to part her labia, and rub her clitoris with one finger. When she gets into the mood, you can dip one finger into her vagina while still rubbing her clitoris.

You can perform oral sex at any point during sex, if one of you is way ahead, you can pleasure her orally. Use your lower lip to play with her clitoris, or put a little pressure on the lower area of her urethra, as this can be quite a pleasant sensation.

If you are worried about losing your erection, don’t panic, it’s likely that by the time she’s ready for you to stop, you’ll be ready to go again.

She will often know how she likes it, so you might want to let her take control. Lie on your back, and let her climb on top and ride you. Suggest that she moves in circles instead of back and forth, she should reach orgasm faster, giving you time to get your strength back.

Depending how much catching up you need, you can reposition her to good effect. If you are trying to come, get her to lie flat along your body by lowering her knees. If her knees are higher and spread wide, you can giver her slow, deep thrusts with less friction.

A lot of women like the missionary position, because it is an intimate position where you can look directly at your partner. Men are often most happy with hard deep thrusting in the same rhythm, but you should be more imaginative than that. Vary everything, and try different mixes of speed and thrust.

Sex will be more different and enjoyable for both of you if you are more creative. Mix up going fast and slow, hard and gentle and you will get more out of the experience. Try using the width of the bed instead of the length, then if you roll around and change positions, you have more room to maneuver.

You may find it more or less difficult to come depending on how wet your partner is. The wetter she is, the less friction there will be, and friction equals stimulation. If you need an extra edge, try raising her left leg to your right shoulder, keeping her right leg flat on the bed, and thrusting towards her left leg.

If you both want to come at the same time, you could try “doggy style”, aiming your penis downwards towards her ‘G’ spot. If you want more friction, you can aim more upwards, and either way, in this position she can control the pace. She can take it as fast or slow as she wants.

If you have difficulty in telling if she’s climaxing, you should watch her breathing, She’ll usually take short, shallow breaths when she’s about to come.